You be the Judge?

Okay, I’m back now and my computer is working great. And now is the perfect time to discuss forgiveness.

Recently I read something about the ‘Law of Forgiveness’ and it struck me that I don’t really believe in that ‘law’. Why is that? Because if you think you have something to forgive then that thought came from a thought of judgment. To me, judging is so not our job and not only that, judging keeps happiness away. As Jesus said; ‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.’ Are you without sin? Me neither.

But here's the rub; we are taught to judge, its like mothers milk. Its beyond a habit and can be very hard to let go of but once you make a start you will find that you are a much happier person. Now this does not mean that, for example, you go into a diner and order the special but to you it tastes terrible. Granted, that is a judgment call and yet, if you notice that I wrote to you instead of just saying that it tasted terrible then you see that technically it is still a judgment it is not a sweeping one that decides for all if the special tastes terrible or great.

So the simple to acquire habit of the words ‘to me’ can make a huge difference is your ‘judgments’ and ultimately, to your happiness. Now lets have another example; person A and person B are supposed to be friends. Person C comes along and says something about person A to person B. Person B stops talking to person A. Person D tells person A what person C said to person B. And it is not true. Should person A be mad at person C? No. To be angry calls for lots of judging; that person C said anything at all, that person C lied, and that the universe didn’t arrange this to happen for a reason. Person C could have truly believed what he or she said, if he or she said anything at all. Person C could have said anything and person B could have simply asked person A if it was true. And this is how it is in life; you think you have enough information to make that judgment and yet-do you? Likely not. Not to mention the fact that if you declined to have thoughts about it at all, how much happier and serene would you be? Any thoughts of he said, she said invariably take you to a place of unhappiness. Who chooses to go there voluntarily?

More on this later……