I know its too simple an answer. I know that people want it to be some secret ritual, formula or tool that they can use—something external that they can acquire to make them happy but the truth of the matter is that happiness comes from within. That the secret to happiness is feeling good. All the time.
And I know that some of you are reading this and thinking, this is ridiculous, how can a person who got fired from their job or lost a loved one feel good? Reread that last paragraph, I said simple I didn’t say easy. When you experience a loss of any kind, you will also experience grief, that is just human nature, but it is in the way that you think about your loss that determines your true feelings. If you get that change is really the norm of life and that in order for new things to come to you--like a job that is more to your liking or takes to your goals faster—some old things must fall away. And as for grief about the loss of a loved one, I know some of you will not like this but I don’t believe that I can be anything less than blunt; you are feeling sorry for yourself (and that is okay because after all you just lost something very special to you, something irreplaceable) but truly, these sorts of occurrences are not common occurrences is most peoples lives now are they.
But what is common is for people to wake up in the morning and have thoughts of dread; dreading school, traffic, their schedule or work or whatever they have going on that they see as a struggle. These people wake up to a feeling of unhappiness and the day usually goes according to that feeling. Think about when you go on vacation; do you even need an alarm clock to wake you up? Probably not and yet on other days don’t you have to have one and likely it must have a snooze button? The only real difference between a vacation morning and non-vacation morning is how you are feeling. So what if you decide to wake up everyday as if you are on vacation? Being unhappy is disbelief; in your supply, in your ability, in your future and/or in what's possible. We are always unhappy when we do not trust (believe) that everything will work out to our satisfaction and promotion.
So let’s opt for happiness. I do know that most of you have not yet created a life that you love. You have to start somewhere and that somewhere is always decision. You make a choice as to what it is that you truly want, you put goals in writing, form a plan and work on your plan everyday. Then you get feedback from the universe blocking you when you are trying to force it & throwing opportunities (that may not look like opportunities at the time) in your path when you are allowing. And sometimes, you are going to be very uncomfortable in your growth. Why? Because you can’t see how what is happening now can possibly take you to where you want to go maybe or maybe you are doing things you never thought you would want to do, like say, gasp, public speaking. Later when you look back you are going to see that it was all necessary and not so bad after all not to mention it turned out even better than you had even planned.
To be happy is a choice; its a decision to enjoy life. And as I said before, sometimes things will happen that are uncomfortable. When this happens it is one of two things; growing pains or else your predominate thoughts are of what you don’t want not what you do want. The former is temporary and necessary to get you to where you want to go the latter will only get worse until you focus and think about your goals to the exclusion of all other possible outcomes.
So now you have decided to be happy where do you start? The easiest way is to count your blessings. No matter where you are there is so much to be thankful for and true gratitude will always bring a smile and that feeling of peace, serenity and happiness. So make a list right now and be grateful for the ability to do so.
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